1st Thing you Need to know, I make AMAZING Spotify Playlists. This is important to know because all my motivations to write lately have come from music. As I’ve been through some shit in the last year, I’ve made quite a few playlists. But this one I’m going to write about all day (because most of my students aren’t in school today, because it’s the day before break, and I have to look like I’m actually doing something today) is the playlist I created once I got out of Michigan. My life is COMPLETLY different now, so I needed some Inspirational Music to reflect that. Anytime I am feeling down, or ruminating about things that happened in the past, I can put this playlist on, and I immediately remember WHO THE FUCK I AM! (This Playlist is on shuffle, there might be some gospel after or before some sex music. Judge Ya Mammy!)
Grateful – Ebony Jenae
Gratitude saved my life. I don’t think I would have made it through that accident, the surgery, the recovery, the move, anything without CONSTANTLY Thanking God. I finally understand why the old folks I grew up around would just blurt out, THANK YA JESUS! The message I got through all of this is, Gratitude brings Blessings. Your life could ALWAYS be worse. No matter what is happening around you, it could be worse. You are still alive, and breathing, that alone is the ultimate Blessing. God saved my LIFE, and allowed me to get my kids into a safe and happy environment. If you EVER hear me complaining, remind me to Shut Up, and Thank God!
Head Above Water – Avril Lavigne
Sometimes, you find God in Pop song. Shouts to Avril for still being a relevant part of my life, 20 years later. This song was originally included in my White Girl Angst playlist. But this was definitely a fervent prayer in the last 6 months. Sometimes you just gotta call out to God. “I’m Drowning! Help me keep my head above Water!” If it wasn’t for those 3 beautiful Girls, I don’t know If I would be here. Every time I thought I can’t make it, it’s too hard, life is just too out of my control . . . one of those girls would come ask for a hug, or bring me a toy, or take some of my food. Being told I am Karma’s Best Friend on a daily basis . . . PRICELESS.
Haute – Janelle Monae
I’m in my Hot Girl Era. Sucks for you if you don’t have access. Cuz I look GOOD right now. All the stress for the last year, weight just fell off. My hair is finally Post-Partum, it’s growing quickly. My nails are as strong as Joyce’s. That Ass is SITTING, you hear me. If I reached out, it’s cuz you matter. Just an FYI. Cuz these DMs are NOT empty, they are popping. At this point, I ain’t trying to impress ANYBODY. I’m impressive JUST by being me. I Love Me, for Real. Honorable Mentions: WAP – Megan The Stallion feat. Cardi B and Ass Like That – Victoria Monet
Shake It Out – Florence and The Machine
This is what I have had to do this last year . . . just Shake some Shit Off. Can’t walk for 4 months . . . shake it off, you still gotta be a mother. Fiancé gone . . . shake it off, now you have a whole new world of possibilities. Getting Evicted . . . shake it off, now you get to move back to Arizona. Lost at least 3 friends who (you thought) were supposed to be in your wedding . . .shake it off, you were doing most of the emotional lifting anyway. Asked someone for help, they said they would, then went ghost on you . . . shake it off, it was time for that friendship to be over anyway. “Cuz it’s Hard to Dance with the Devil on your back, so Shake Him Off!” That’s exactly what I did. I’m so GRATEFUL for all the People/Places/Things that have fallen to the Wayside in this last year. Good Riddance!
So Good – Big Sean & Kash Doll
This song was written about me, that’s all you need to know.
Dope Girl Magic
Before I started on the journey that led to Motherhood, this was one of my FAVORITE songs to play to start my day. 5 YEARS LATER . . . I Stunt Different . . . I’m Dope cuz God listens to me. I’m Dope because I have a Genius 3 Year old, an engineering 2 year old, and a 1 year old that will take out her pacifier and yell “NAILED IT!” and then put it RIGHT back in. Being Dope looks different on me this year. Honorable Mentions: It’s Not My Fault – Renee Rapp ft. Megan the Stallion and Real Life – Cyn Santana
Float – Janelle Monae
The bridge is IT. “No, I’m Not the Same Nigga. I think I done Changed Nigga.” I don’t carry myself the same. I walk differently (I mean there is a limp, but that isn’t what I mean.) I present as confident now, maybe even overconfident to those who are intimidated by confidence. I just . . . know that God has my back. There is an extra pep in your step, when you are walking with the Magic of the Universe. You can float through certain things, events, even people. Because I know (GOD HAS) I have this handled. I won’t fail, because I’ve learned in the last year that God won’t let me. The Universe has my Front, Back and Middle. I’m so GRATEFUL I know God on my own. Not what I was taught, or what I learned in church. Being in tune, and really seeing what he can do, if you just ask for help with Faith/Confidence. Fear and Doubt really are The Devil.
I’ll Be Around – Cee-Lo Green ft. Timbaland
I know Cee-Lo got canceled or whatever, but this song GOES. Plus, I didn’t know he was a creep when I fell in love with this song. Stop judging me! Top 5 Timbaland beat, he was on his SHIT when he produced this. Okay, but really, this song (and it’s Chorus) are a Special Shout Out to The Unicorn. K Thanx Bye. Honorable Mentions: Sex with Me – Rihanna, Big Ole Freak – Meg tha Stallion, Don’t Cha – The Pussycat Dolls.
Can You Stand the Rain? – New Edition
I’m not looking for fair-weather friends. I need solid ass people. Who don’t disappear during times of crisis. That check on me, too. That ask what sizes the Girls wear cuz they saw something at Target. That come over and cry with you when you need them to. That come to AZ for a conference and book a hotel that lets my kids play all weekend. Those are the kind of people that my circle MUST consist of. This is also the kind of Partner I want. Everything was all good, until I wasn’t the person taking care of everything. The minute the dynamic and distribution of tasks/work/responsibilities changed . . . so did he. So he had to go. We are doing Support and Peace, we are doing Guidance and Structure, Love and Harmony. That is all I will accept. Love is great . . . but it’s not going to maintain a stable relationship.
Thriving – Mary J. Blige ft. Nas
My entire life has been Survival. Most of my decisions have been made out of desperation or a need to stop the water from leaking out of the boat, at that time. Patching up problems is a thing of the past. I’m living a life I couldn’t even imagine a year ago. I am free of other people’s burdens. My only responsibilities are my 3 children, who I love more than myself. The LOVE they show me on a daily basis. I remember loving Joyce that much. It’s such a blessing to feel that, but also a pressure to do it right. To make sure when they look back at their childhood, they don’t have very many things they have to heal from.
On My Mama – Victoria Monet
This is Karma’s favorite song. This is her every time request. I just need to say, those kids had to be born. Whatever I went through, it was all worth it. Because being a mother is LITERALLY the best thing ever. The BEST feeling is picking up Karma from Daycare. The minute she sees me, EVERYTHING gets dropped. The amount of times I’ve been introduced to snotty children during drop-off/pick-up. I feel like a celebrity. Even THAT is a blessing, because Joyce did NOT do public displays of affection until I was a full grown adult. Karma being proud I’m her mom . . . . PRICELESS!
Thanx for Reading. The Link to the playlist is right below. I hope you enjoy!